Need to talk to someone? 

Sometimes you just need to talk to someone about what’s going on for you. Especially when what’s going on for you is really scaring you.

This page offers a few ideas on resources you might explore, if and when you need it.

Please note that we can’t offer direct support ourselves, and the Big Feels Club is not a crisis support service. 

Big Feels is just two people, and we don’t have the capacity to be able to respond to people in this way.

So for instance, if you message us or post on one of our forums or social media pages, there’s no guarantee one of us will see your message. Likewise, our group meet ups aren’t therapy spaces - they’re more like a live podcast with some interactive bits. So they’re not somewhere you can share something really tender like, say, you’re thinking about death a lot lately and it’s freaking you out.

So where can you go when you need to talk to someone?

Below are a few options for support that you may wish to consider. A number of these supports are run by or staffed by folks who’ve been through this stuff too. 

Important note: all the things linked to here are external supports not operated or controlled by the Big Feels Club, and they’re not a substitute for independent professional advice. Also we try to keep it updated but some of these links may have changed since we last updated the page.

We’ve listed supports in two sections: 

  • Alternatives to Suicide

    Alternatives to Suicide is a peer-based response to supporting people who have made suicidal attempts or who have experienced suicidal thoughts. This peer-to-peer practice consists of mutual support groups that provide a space for voicing, sitting with, understanding and moving through suicidal thoughts. These groups are facilitated by people with their own experience of suicidal attempts or suicidal thoughts.

    Like us, Alternatives to Suicide is not a crisis response service. They don’t offer one-on-one or immediate support. But unlike us, what they can offer is a regular space to talk about whatever’s going on for you, including thoughts of suicide.

    The New South Wales chapter, Alt2Su NSW, puts it this way: while they’re not a crisis support service, “for people who experience suicidal thoughts, knowing there is a group that meets regularly helps us hold on during a crisis. Many of us have found relief, comfort, and healing by participating regularly in groups where we privilege attentive listening and sharing about suicidal thoughts and distress, without fear of being put through a crisis management system.”

    In Australia, you can find Alternatives to Suicide groups in New South Wales and in Western Australia, with some groups available online to people across Australia. All of these groups often meet weekly.

    The Alternatives to Suicide model is also available in other countries, including the US, where it was first originated by the Wildflower Alliance.

    Other peer-led initiatives

    There are also other peer-led initiatives (meaning they’re led by people who’ve lived it too) across Australia, and beyond. These include the Humane Clinic in South Australia (who run the Just Listening Community), Brook RED in Queensland, and the Self Help Addictions Resource Centre (SHARC) in Victoria (who run programs for if you’re wrestling with addiction, as well as offering family supports).

    In New Zealand there are places like Mind and Body Consultants (Big Feels Club Co-Founder Graham’s first mental health workplace!) whose services include a peer support phone line staffed entirely by fellow big feelers. Other peer support services in New Zealand include Ember and Pathways.

    In the US there are several grassroots peer-led initiatives, like the Wildflower Alliance.

    To find peer support options in your area, terms to search include ‘peer support’, ‘peer respite’ (an alternative to hospital run by big feelers) and ‘warmline’ (a form of helpline that’s often run by peers). Most of these options are low-cost or free.

    A few other options in Australia

    ReachOut runs an online forum for people aged 14 to 25. The forum is moderated by other people with big feelings, and they have threads dedicated to the ‘I’m having a hard time right now!’ stuff.

    SANE run a chat service online from 10am to 10pm weekdays, and a forum similar to ReachOut, but with no upper age cutoff. They too offer peer support, meaning chances to chat with other people going through similar stuff.

    In NSW in Australia, the government has been opening up Safe Haven Cafes across the state, which are alternatives to Emergency Departments for when you’re in a mental health crisis. A full list can be found on the NSW government website here.

    Switchboard is a Switchboard peer-based support for LGBTQI folks.

    If you’re in crisis right now and want to talk to someone as soon as possible, see the next section for info on crisis phone lines and services.

  • If you’re in crisis and need to talk to someone as soon as possible, the following numbers are available in Australia.

    Lifeline - call 13 11 14 to talk to someone, 24/7. This is the most well-known crisis line in Australia. You can call, or text them (visit their website for more info). It is designed to provide "short-term support for people who are feeling overwhelmed or having difficulty coping or staying safe".

    Suicide Call Back Service - call 1300 659 467 for a national 24/7 telehealth provider that offers free professional phone and online counselling for people living in Australia. As they say on their website, their service provides access to “free professional counselling anywhere, at a time that is convenient to you”.

    Beyond Blue also offer a 24/7 phone support service, available from within Australia on 1300 22 46 36. Beyond Blue also list a number of other Australian national helplines.

    If you are outside Australia, to find a helpline search “the country you’re in” plus “mental health crisis line”, e.g. “Canada mental health crisis line”.